Some months ago, in what now feels like a different life, a golden oldie on the radio stirred emotions which inspired me to put pen to paper…..
“Imagine all the people, living life in peace.
You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.
I hope some day you’ll join us, and the world will be as one…”
World peace, wouldn’t that be awesome, but unachievable? What about starting small, what about peace in our own organisation…do we have that? If not, why not?
I am hugely privileged to now be more involved with colleagues across specialties and across professions. I see many teams who work well together with individuals caring for and supporting each other. Yes, we all have difficulties that crop up but that can usually be talked through and solutions found.
However, I am saddened to see some individuals who are unhappy, feel that they are being bullied, dread being on shift with certain colleagues, become unwell. I also notice others who do not realise what impact a word, a comment, a frown, a gesture can have on those around them.
Why can it sometimes be difficult for us to be nice??
Have you ever snapped at someone, raised your voice, talked over someone, rushed a conversation that was important to someone, didn’t make the effort to say good morning, didn’t thank or congratulate someone for doing a great job, made someone feel belittled, unimportant, less valued?
I have, probably many times, for which I would like to hugely apologise to each and every one.
I ask myself why…pressures, frustration, my own worries and insecurities, being unaware of the impact of my actions.
A quote that I saw recently rings true..
People will forget what I said
People will forget what I did
But people will always remember how I made them feel
We work in a wonderful organisation but there are many pressures and stresses. The last thing that we need is to be fighting with each other. Not only does fighting and unpleasantness make life miserable for ourselves, but ultimately affects patient care..”civility saves lives”. ”
This was written and parked, and the world changed. In the last few months we have coped with our lives being turned upside down. We have worked together with incredible energy, understanding, innovation and support. Now we are reflecting on our experiences and learning and planning the new world ahead with some uncertainty and anxiety. Let’s continue to reflect on our own behaviour, support each other, and be nice. We need each other more than ever before in this strange uncertain world.
Never has this been more true for me personally than in the last few weeks when my world was further rocked by a tragic family loss. The kindness and support shown by colleagues was wonderful and got me through the challenging and deeply sad times. Thank you all so much.
Whatever is ahead of us, I know we will be ok if we are kind to each other, and ourselves.
I don’t need to imagine!
Heather Currie is an Obstetrician and Gynaecologist and Associate Medical Director for Acute and Diagnostics and Women and Childrens at NHS Dumfries and Galloway