“When patients go to a doctor, they do so because they feel that the doctor is the person with the best chance to help them. They may be alternating between hope that the doctor will be able to cure them, and fear that nothing can be done. When the doctor demonstrates that they really care about the patient, it can immediately help put their mind at ease” Medicine and Compassion. Chokyi Nyima Rinpoche and David R Shlim.
Nick and Ben share some thoughts on their experiences as doctors,
Nick
How long have you been a doctor?
I grew up in New Zealand and qualified there before travelling a bit. My plan was to return to complete specialisation in psychiatry, but I ended up staying in Scotland when I met my partner, and trained in psychiatry in Glasgow, Ayrshire and Aberdeen. Next week will be the fortieth anniversary of my last day at school; I qualified in medicine just over 34 years ago. I’ve worked in psychiatry almost 32 years and as a consultant since the start of this millennium.
Ben
How long have you been a doctor?
I graduated from India and have been practicing medicine since 1995. I have always had Paediatrics as my core interest and started to develop my interest in Paediatrics since very early during my medical training.
Before coming to the UK, I completed 3 years of postgraduate Paediatric training from one of Asia’s biggest children’s hospitals, The Institute of Child Health, and received my MD graduation there in 2001.
I came over to UK to pursue further training the same year, went on to work at the Alder Hey, Birmingham Heartlands, Yorkhill, St Mary’s Manchester hospitals etc to name a few and then settled down in Dumfries for good.
Nick
What is your ideal doctor?
Long ago I learnt that perfection is unattainable; more recently I realised it’s undesirable too. Being imperfect is part of being human. Accepting these counters, the constant stress of striving to be perfect and worrying about not making it. Owning some imperfection, some room for error, is part of what makes a doctor come across as human. It makes it easier for others, for patients and their loved ones, for colleagues because they identify with that touch of fallibility. Being honest about this, reflecting on mistakes – and on good clinical decisions whose outcomes are not quite as hoped or expected – with patients, families, staff, peers really humanises the medic which in turn makes it easier to achieve the balanced, collaborative relationships at work which help make an ideal human being, and an ideal doctor.
Ben
What is your ideal doctor?
For me, in whatever profession we decide to pursue, we need to love it and be passionate about the job we do.
As a doctor, I feel we are in a good position (responsible position) to make others’ lives better. I always look forward to the joy of seeing someone getting better, especially children.
Children are different, they are very withdrawn and low when unwell and also, they find it hard to meeting a stranger like us in the hospital. However, once treated they bounce back superfast. They are back to their normal self, all over the place, chatty, smiling – these are a joy to watch, I love seeing them this way.
This provides a doctor an immense pride, self-belief, positiveness and addiction to do such acts more.
As a doctor, I feel with the evolution of medical management every few months, we need to constantly learn, change and develop ourselves to suit the needs of the patients of the current times. We need to have a very flexible approach rather than just stick with our own thoughts, being adaptable rather than how we were taught earlier in our training. Some of these teachings might not fit the current practices or fit for purpose for the current generation, but we can listen, change and adapt!
Nick
What is compassion?
To me, compassion is intentionally listening (really listening) – curiously, to understand – and then accepting without judgment, even if you disagree; and being thoughtful and wise in how to respond. And it to yourself as well as to others.
Ben
What is compassion?
For me compassion is all about how can I help here? How can I make it better for the patient, colleagues, or anyone else, trying to find ways to listen to them and solve their issues. How we deliver care is through relationships based on empathy, respect and dignity, it can described as intelligent kindness, and is central to how people perceive their care.
Nick
Why does compassion matter?
Compassion matters for many reasons. In medicine, it is part of what makes an ideal yet imperfect doctor. It matters for patients because even in very challenging cases, they feel understood, their experiences validated. Then working together, even when treatment options might be few and of limited effect, becomes a joint process for decision-making and a shared, supportive clinical experience. For teams and colleagues, compassion matters for similar reasons. Positive contributions aren’t invisible; they are noted, commented on, welcomed, encouraged. Questions – no matter how “silly” – and less wise decisions can be talked through and learnt from calmly and without trepidation, not avoided but turned into opportunities to learn and improve. Being compassionate models a compassionate approach; consulting someone who takes a compassionate approach feels comfortable and fosters further compassion. In its small way, this virtuous circle helps counter the shoutiness of life – and social media, and politics – in this modern age.
Ben
Why does compassion matter?
In my dual role as a doctor and as an AMD/CD compassion is something that has to be part of everything I do and with any of my decision making. I will respond more here on the leadership role as I have provided more info earlier as the role of an ideal doctor.
For me, the leadership role I do will always be a collective and a compassionate leadership. It is all about the people I work with, I will make sure everyone has a say and they take responsibilities. I have always tried to be there, respond to queries in a prompt way instead of leaving it to develop into a bigger issue. I try to create a positive and supportive environment and make colleagues flourish and grow. Increasing demand and complexities causes challenges, and this is a well-known factor for stress.
I like to be part of and contribute to solution making. Even when my best solution is to listen.
Young Nick
Ben
“When we are motivated by compassion and wisdom, the results of our actions benefit everyone, not just our individual selves or some immediate convenience.” Dalai Lama
Nick Walker
Associate Medical Director Mental Health
NHS Dumfries and Galloway
Ben Rayen
Associate Medical Director W&C’s Directorate and Clinical Director Paediatrics & Child Health
NHS Dumfries and Galloway