Emotional Intelligence- your greatest strength can be your greatest weakness.
For the last 6 months I have been fortunate to be part of a leadership journey with the #dNMAHPs, NES, digital leadership course. As part of my leadership journey I decided to Log my journey in a 3 Blog series.
So what have I learnt on this journey? Have I achieved the program aims of developing leadership skills- Yes. The program has given me the confidence and opportunity to be more bold, more innovative, more digitally enabled and encouraged me to reflect more routinely. I have also learn that not acheiving the end result is not quite as improtant as I once thought. It is not failure if you dont achieve the inital aims as long as you have learnt and developed along the journey.
In order to lead others, we must first understand ourselves and be aware of our reactions and how we are precieved by others. Our Emotional Intelligence has a significant impact on our perfromace and capabilites as well of those around us.
Emotional Intelligence: is the ability to understand,use, and mange your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathise with others, over come challenges and defuse conflict.
“It is the key to both personal and professional success.”
Goleman (1995) states the 5 domains of emotional intelligence:
Self awareness, motivation, empathy, social skills and self regulation
I was once told, 10 + years ago, that my emotion was my greatest strength but that it was also my greatest weakness. Emotional intelligence has an amazing impact on both the person and the team and therefore the organisation.
As we all Know nothing stays the same, change is happening all around us, and to be able to cope with change in a constantly changing (home and work) environment we need resiliance and for me emotioanl intelligence is part of that resilence. It is a key skill of a good leadership and healthcare.
The infographic shows us how our intrapersonal skills can inflence our interpersonal abilities.
By working on the components of emotional intelligence and being aware of where we need to develop and grow, we can potentially achieve in a number of areas shown in the infographic below.
Taking some time to think about your own emotional intelligence can be uncomfortable, we all have days when we wish we had said something differently or been more empathetic to a colleuge. By developing this self awareness is our inital step to developing EI. The ladder of inference mentioned in my First Blog is a great tool to reflect on how we react to situations and how we can infulence and self mange our reactions and emotions.
Top Tips for leading with Emotional Intelligence:
- Stabilse- Know your triggers– if you can’t mange your triggers, them you will destabilse yourself and therefore the team. Anticipate stressors, have a plan, COUNT TO 10. Practice makes perfect, looking after your health will allow you to look after others.
- Recognise emotions in others- empathy is the ability to understand other peoples perspective. Acknowleding and understanding peoples concerns results in people being more motivated and willing to be part of the solution.
- Mobilise: Once you have self awareness of your emtions and the emotions of your team you can then mobilse to acheive your goals- looking for the help, ideas and perspectives of your team will move everyone towards your goals.
I am at the end of a small chapter in my leadership and team work journey. And although I still have a lot to learn I have cetainly come a long way. Team work makes the dreamwork, and that through my 3 blogs I have explored what team work means and how we can do it well, the ability to achieve more than you thought you could by having a clear vision and purpose (Vaccinating the Nation) in “The good we do today become the happiness of tomorrow” and finally that after 6 months, one of the strongest traits of good leadership is Emotional intelligence.
I hope sharing some of my thoughts on this journey with you have been helpful.
Be Kind to yourself, be self aware, be kind to others and be aware of others emotions and perspectives. Seeing all sides of the story helps us to work more effectively as a health care team.
Thank you for reading this Blog, any comments on this or any of my 3 blog series would be greatly appreciated.
Ali Howie MSK Team Lead- Life long learner.
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